by Andrew Pacholyk MS L.Ac. ~ Peacefulmind.com
Change is the Universal wake-up call. Everyone experiences it. Everyone is usually surprised by it when it occurs, yet it always seems to be an assault on our senses.
Change can be the loss of a job, a breakup in a relationship, or a death in the family. Sometimes we see it coming and sometimes we are painfully unaware. How do we learn to face the inevitable? How do we push through and learn to embrace a different process?
The motto, “be prepared” actually means to be ready, willing, and able to do something. In the case of change, being prepared is the key to handling any situation that is different than what you are used to.
Be aware. This is probably the most important concept that is important to grasp. When we are aware, we are more conscious. When we are more conscious, we are more tolerable. When we are more tolerable, we are more flexible. This awareness brings attention to possibilities that you may have not been privy to with your head in the sand.
Be flexible. A must when coping with change. Are you able to listen to opinions other than your own? Can you listen to a belief that is different than yours and not have something to say about it? Are you a team player or is it always your way, or no way? Being flexible in the way we think and ultimately act will serve as a good tool when having to cope with change knocking at your door. Being more tolerable of others and situations that come out of left field will get you through the transition of change much faster.
Be open. This requires letting go of our ego-selves. When we go through change, we often take the position that the action was due to something we did or the result of our own response to a situation. The greater you expect things to be, the harder it is to deal with things that do not go your way! Having no expectations is one of the greatest lessons we can learn. By allowing yourself to be open to ANYTHING that is new to you and giving it a chance, you can find your life going in the direction of new adventures and endless possibilities!
Be composed. Change has one trait that can take our emotions from uncertainty to a whirling tornado of confusion and hysteria if we allow it. Being calm and composed in a situation that alters our current reality, can not only be a game-changer but can save our life. When we are composed during sudden change, we think logically instead of allowing our emotions to run away with our common sense. Fear does this. Fear is the upstaging of our common sense. Finding peace within the chaos allows you to bring your monkey mind out of the trees and back down to earth.
Be self-reliant. Life is full of punches we take on the chin. Are you going to fall and not get up or are you going to stand and fight? Our minds and body are much stronger than we think. We can endure more than we can possibly imagine. Change is that fork in the road. We sometimes think that if we choose a path, what would happen if it’s the wrong path? What may be considered the wrong path, is not really wrong at all, but more like a detour that will need your self-reliance and strength to keep following where it leads.
Be honest with yourself. We are imperfect beings. We strive each day to be the best we can be and that is all we can hope to achieve. Perfection is a construct created to help us reach our highest selves. It can be hard to admit that we are wrong. But, when we do find that place in our minds and let down our ego, coping with change can be a much easier way to move forward.
“Often, in the waves of change, we discover our true direction” ~ Barefoot: A Surfer’s View of the Universe